Free Printable Problem-Solving Guide: Helping Kids Think Through Challenges on Their Own
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As most adults are aware, life is full of problems, and part of growing up is learning to address our problems confidently and creatively. When it comes to the problems that kids encounter, parents often feel the urge swoop in to do the work of identifying a problem, drawing upon our own experiences to make predictions, and choosing a solution to help our kids move forward. After all, we’re knowledgeable, we’re experienced, we don’t like to see our kids suffer, and we’re busy! The parental swoop-in often feels like the best option. However, If we never let our kids think and work through problems on their own, they miss out on important learning opportunities that promote greater confidence and competence for navigating challenges later in life.
Independent problem-solving builds critical thinking, emotional regulation, and executive function skills that help young learners thrive not just today, but well into adulthood. These skills aren’t just nice to have—they’re the foundation for self-esteem, resilience, and healthy relationships. Parents can help their kids grow into confident, future problem-solvers by helping frame today’s problems as learning opportunities to discuss together.
Introducing: The P.O.O.C.H. Method
The POOCH method is a straightforward tool that can help kids break down problems, explore options, and make informed decisions. This method not only builds confidence but also empowers children to trust their judgment.
P = Problem: Identify the Problem
The first step is to clearly define what the problem is. Encourage your child to articulate what’s happening and what’s causing frustration. Gather details and try to fit the idea into one sentence.
Example: “"I want to play with my friends without my younger sibling interrupting, but my sibling feels like I’m leaving them out."
O = Options: Consider Various Options
Next, help your child brainstorm several possible solutions. Encourage creativity and exploration—there’s often more than one way to solve a problem. By considering different options, even “bad” ideas, children learn that they have choices, which increases their sense of control.
Options: "What are some ways you could solve this?"
Help your child brainstorm possible solutions:
Invite your sibling to join the group and let them play a part in the game, but set boundaries so that they aren’t overpowered by the other players
Ask your friends to play a different game that involves everyone, allowing your sibling to be part of the fun.
Ask an adult to help occupy the younger sibling while you spend time with your friends
Ignore your sibling and play with your friends anyway, hoping they’ll go away or find something else to do.
O = Outcomes: Anticipate Consequences
Once the options have been identified, ask your child to think about the potential outcomes of each choice. What might happen if they choose one option over another? This step helps children understand cause and effect, allowing them to make decisions based on logic and foresight rather than impulse.
Invite your sibling to join the group: It might feel a little crowded, but your sibling won’t feel left out.
Suggest a new game: It could be fun to try something new with everyone, but the neighbor kids might not like the suggestion.
Ask an adult to talk to your sibling: An adult may be able to help your sibling understand that you need time to play with your friends alone.
Ignore your sibling: They may feel hurt or excluded, and this could lead to more interrupting or even a big fight.
C = Choose: Choose a Solution
Now it’s time for your child to make a decision. Help them evaluate their options and pick the one that feels best to them. Let them know that it’s okay if things don’t always go perfectly—what matters most is that they’ve thought through their options and chosen the best path forward.
H = Help: Identify Who Can Help if Needed
Sometimes, problems require additional support. Encourage your child to recognize when they might need help. Who can they turn to for guidance or assistance? Whether it’s a teacher, a parent, or a friend, identifying sources of help ensures that children don’t feel alone when faced with challenges.
These steps are consolidated into a handy tool that’s available in the Tidepool Learning Free Resource Library.
As you can see, the P.O.O.C.H. Method helps young learners…
Identify a problem and break it into smaller, more manageable questions
Consider both “good” and “bad” ideas and think about what could happen if they choose them
Understand the consequences of their actions
Build executive functioning skills like planning and emotional regulation (skills that will reduce everyday frustration and conflict as they grow older)
Tips for Parents
Give your problem-solver space to think: Try not to steer the process too much. They should have enough time and support to arrive at their own conclusions.
Encourage "bad ideas": Let them explore options that may lead to negative outcomes, and talk through the possible consequences. This will help build critical thinking skills, and it can also add some humor to a stressful moment.
Patience is key: Even if the solution isn’t perfect, the process is what counts. The more they practice, the better they’ll get at it.
The P.O.O.C.H. Method isn’t just a one-time activity; it’s a tool that kids can use to gradually navigate life’s challenges with more confidence, resilience, and independence. Try it out with your young problem-solver today!
